So I’m trying to write a dissertation and support some really amazing disability justice activist friends of mine so I really don’t have time to be messin’ around with this Eddie Long/#NWNW business but… Here I go. This will be real quick though. Promise. Point by point even. Abusing children ≠ “gay” – I am […]
Fish Dreams and Fantasies: Contemplating Motherhood
Fish dreams signal pregnancy in my family. The premonition, which was mostly my grandmother’s or another maternal figure, has been consistent and accurate for as long as I can remember. All girl children were implicated by any dream that featured fish. . . Menses signaled to my family that I was to be watched, warned, […]
The Evidence of Things Not Seen: Sex and Power in the Black Church
Last night, I watched the interview of Jamaal Parris, one of four young men who has come forward accusing Atlanta mega church pastor Eddie Long of sexual abuse and coercion. When the story of Long’s alleged sexual abuse of these young men hit news outlets last week, I was shocked and reluctant to comment. You see […]
Help Support “To The Other Side of Dreaming”
Support “To The Other Side of Dreaming” In a flash of bold courage and brave vision Mia Mingus and Stacey Milbern began a journey of possibility the likes of which the world… well at least we’d never seen. “..two queer disabled diasporic Korean women of color in the process moving from the South to the […]
On the possibilities for beauty; for love.
We live in a hurting and hurtful world. News reports abound, of course, that makes nihilism a quotidian way of life. But more than that, it is a viable option for moving through times that give us so little reason to smile, to love, to have joy. But the beat drops and you see folks […]
Females: You Just Can’t Trust ‘Em and Other Lies Women Believe
Distrust among women is at epidemic proportions, especially among women of color. I am always amazed at the number of women I encounter who declare proudly, that they don’t hang with other FEMALES, preferring the company of males whom they are quick to assert are less prone to gossip, back-stabbing, and emotionalism. Side Note: Y’all […]
Open Season on Women
TRIGGER WARNING: THIS VIDEO CONTAINS AN ACT OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE A young woman is walking to work at about 6 AM when a man appearing to be on a cell phone waits for her to pass him and then grabs her and carries her behind a van. They disappear from view and he later emerges […]
Street Harassment: The Uncomfortable Walk Home
Family, check out this piece from friend of the CFC Elizabeth Mendez Berry. by Elizabeth Mendez Berry/ www.mendezberry.com (this is a translation of a Spanish-language oped originally published by New York’s El Diario on September 14, 2010) I was 13 when I was sexually harassed for the first time. On a sunny summer day, two […]
A (Hetero)Black Feminist F(ordin)airytale
My husband and I have been together for ten years, married for five. I have been reflecting on our relationship particularly because there are very few positive narratives about black male and female relationships in general. But I have been thinking about the fact that I haven’t come across many positive narratives about self-identified black […]
So, Two Feminists Walk into a Bar…
For some, the title of this piece would indicate that what follows is most certainly a farce, but it’s a bit more complicated than that. Last week, I took a trip to New York to visit my girls and to celebrate finishing up my book manuscript. I was dead tired but so so glad that […]