Monthly Archives: May 2011

These Days I Hate Going to the Gynecologist

Oftentimes women complain that they hate going to the gynecologist because they don’t like the procedures.   Sometimes it is likened to going to the dentist but more uncomfortable and personal.  I can’t say that my reasons are related to the procedures.  In fact, what makes me most uncomfortable about the speculum is the historical exploitation of black women whose bodies were violated as subjects in the development of this tool. I also cannot say that I dislike the intimate discussions about my personal life and habits.  Ideally this space should be like going to a mental health therapist where …Read more »

SlutWalks v. Ho Strolls

Today, we had initially planned to bring you a review of the new groundbreaking book Hey Shorty: A Guide to Combatting Sexual Harassment in Schools and on the Streets. And you can read it here. But in light of the SlutWalk movement that broke out in Toronto earlier this year and the embrace of the movement in U.S. feminist mainstream over the last few months, I would like to add a few more thoughts to the discussion, in light of recent and much-needed calls on the part of feminists of color for a much more critical race critique in the …Read more »

Making Schools and Streets Safer for Girls

We are excited to bring you this guest post from journalist and friend of the CFC Elizabeth Mendez Berry! It is hard to envision a school without sexual harassment. However, if one existed, I imagine it would be a place where kids can excel as students instead of having to worry about what is going to be said or done to them the next time they go in the hallway.” – Kai, student organizer, quoted in Hey Shorty “So the dean says [you] know how young men think and [you’re] at fault for wearing an outfit that provoked that sort of attention, [you] …Read more »

The Ugly Truth: Today’s Psychologies of Racism and Sexism

By now, most of you have heard of the blog article that appeared in yesterday’s issue of Psychology Today asserting that Black women are objectively less attractive than women of all other races. The piece was removed after a bad attempt at re-titling it, but here’s a repost. Here’s a truth: Objectivity is the originary creation myth of science. But that’s not what this post is about.  I want to make three very brief observations about this so-called “study” published in Psychology Today. First, in addition to making disturbing pronouncements about the lack of intelligence of Black people as a …Read more »

It Gets Wetter: A Message to Women Who Frequently Have Horrible, Rushed Sex (NSFW)


Here’s a bold truth: I don’t enjoy penetration of any kind unless I’m wet enough to drown a dolphin. And this truth wouldn’t be a problem if sex weren’t always about penetration. One sex therapist put it best when she said, “If most women don’t have orgasms during ‘sex,’ but do have orgasms, perhaps we need to redefine sex.” Amen and Ashé. With a redefinition that includes pleasurable, intimate touch, kissing and best of all (for me, anyway) cunnilingus, I realize that I had some of my best sex as a teenager. He was Pentecostal and I was a Baptist …Read more »

10 Crunk Things for Spring: Watch, Read, Listen, Support

We are more convinced than ever that the fiercest and most progressive communities for women of color have migrated online. We have collectively compiled a top 10 list of folks whose music, webshows, web communities, magazines and causes you should know about and support. We think they will inspire your spirit, make you laugh, and make you bob your head. Check It: 1. The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl — This web show is hilarious, diverse, and quirky; it shows another multi-layered dimension of Black female experience. For that and for the beautifully comic mind of its creator Issa Rae, …Read more »

Musings on (the day after) Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to CF’s Asha, Sheri, Rachel, Whitney & Chanel! Happy Mother’s Day to all Mamas! As a graduate student, with a penchant for procrastination, I watch a lot of reality TV.  In particular, I watch a lot of shows on Bravo that point out the hardships of being rich, white, and woman in a world made for their husbands rich white men. Some of these women are mothers and in light of yesterday’s really awesome holiday turned commercialized grossness, I thought I’d muse on motherhood as represented in these shows. I’m particularly fond of Bethenny Getting Married now …Read more »

Nene vs. Star: Black Women & The Vulnerability of Anger

The first season of The Apprentice brought with it an impressive black woman (Omarosa Manigault) who deconstructed her brilliance to pacify an audience that seeks (if not requires) black women to fit a particular prototype on television.  Omarosa embodied what Patricia Hill Collins would designate the black lady, a black woman whose intellect and success make her difficult to like and love.  I find it fascinating that no matter what a black woman does and who she is (smart, beautiful, independent, etc.) —she is ultimately made to feel undesirable and unwanted–even and sometimes especially from people (who look) like her. …Read more »

We Need Each Other to Survive: On Recovery and Reclamation


Last Wednesday, I literally felt like I raced time leaving the city of Tuscaloosa, AL about 45 minutes before the deadly tornado that ripped my neighborhood to shreds, destroying lives, and schools, and property along the way. I was on my way to the Birmingham airport to catch a flight out to the Black Women’s Intellectual History Conference at Columbia, an event I had been anticipating for more than 6 months. The conference gave me life and renewed my sense of purpose and community profoundly, as I knew it would. I needed to be there. And I am so glad …Read more »

Dancing in the Streets

As I type this post, thousands of Americans have taken to the streets to celebrate the death of Osama Bin Laden.  Folks are singing, dancing, waving flags, and generally applauding what they see as American badassery.  All across Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and various other forms of social media, folks are weighing on the recent events. While some had measured responses, several of my Facebook friends, for example, were all about “Boo-yah!” “Take that, you terrorists!” “You can’t stop our freedom!” and so on.   I have to admit, though, that I’m definitely feeling some kind of way about all this celebrating. …Read more »

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