Everything. Love has everything to do with it. I’ll explain. This month we’ve been talking about love in many of its forms here at the CFC. In another corner of our world, though unfortunately one in which we all still live and try our best to love, there is an ongoing attack on women, our families and our most treasured communities. I’m sure that many of you have heard about the various bills being introduced in Washington and around the country that target women’s access to health care. Access to comprehensive reproductive health care.  Access to abortion. I’ve been working …Read more »

Hey girl, I’m calling Cause I got your text Seems you might need a hug And a minute to vent   So you spent one more night Trying to find the words To explain that joint parenting Means joint work That what he can’t pay for Can be supplemented with time Especially since you’re working And studying at night   He seems to believe That you are well paid Even though you are overqualified For a job that you hate But you stay cause you have to And your boss knows that well But her singing your praises Is not …Read more »

*** NOT WORK APPROPRIATE “Why Miss Celie, she say. You still a virgin.” –Alice Walker, The Color Purple “can/you touch yrself/&/when you do/ do you rush to say/ ‘get thee behind me/Satan?’” –Ntozake Shange, “intermittent celibacy” One. The First Lady and the girl are tarrying for anointing. She has spent her teenaged summer wondering why God has not made her body worthy of the Spirit that stretches women across the Pentecostal pews, speaking in tongues and falling out under the touch of the First Lady. She has finally walked down the carpeted aisle toward First Lady’s towering hat, her outstretched …Read more »

Note: This is the first post in our month long series on sex, love, and relationships. To protect the anonymity of the CFs and so that we may speak more freely, many of us will be posting this month under the Collective pseudonym CrunkAsHell. We will also let you know whenever a post is NSFW (not safe for work). Happy Reading! Like most conservative Christian folks, I grew up believing, that sex was reserved for marriage. For years my sexual experiences were laden with guilt. I routinely went years at a time with no sexual contact, until I would finally, …Read more »